Life as a Proverbs 31 Wife & Mother

 During my recent adventures in motherhood, I have come to understand a bit more of what was meant by the "lost years".  These are the years in between being a child and being an adult, when we as teens tend to get lost in who we want to be and focus less on whom we really are already.  We loose that sense of self and become part of the world around us.  Those who influence us the most can have big impact on who we become. This can start at home with parents and siblings and gradually move towards our circle of friends and co-workers. 

Today can be a great day if we look at it through God's lenses.

When I began this journey, I was teenage girl with little direction but massive drive towards the goals I thought were important.  I have learned, throughout the years, that life has a funny way of changing right before our eyes.  I found myself, thriving and proud of my accomplishments but with little "true north".  My compass was moving in a direction I knew was different but who was I to question it.  I was in college and working towards my degree in marine science; something I had always wanted to do.  My faith was strong, and my drive was truly North, or so I thought.  I was wrong.  I found as I entered my mid-20's that this drive was the opposite of what I originally thought.  I was lost and wondering in the deserts of my surroundings looking for Him.  I was not sure of much, I knew God existed and that if I had the faith he would guide me.  I am head-strong and forgot to turn off my own compass to allow God to begin the work in me.  I know that people say, " No matter what, God's at work in us".  For me, that was just some saying that people tell others who are not sure of themselves.  I was sure of one thing, I was trying to paddle my life upstream instead of letting God lead me downstream. 
This was the first realization I had concerning my faith walk and how it weaved my decisions, my job orientation and even my  circles of friend .  I found myself looking at every aspect underneath a microscope and seeing that this "compass" of mine was steering me against His path!  I stopped and turned around, picking each part of my "compass" to align with His plan.  I also began to pray more, in my mind, you went to church weekly and prayer was part of that.  I had never shut the door to God, but I had compartmentalized my life into categories: Church, Friends, Work, Home, Family.   
How many of us try to separate all those things and then begin to prioritize things based on what value others hold these things to? I know that I tried to live my life to serve my Lord, but as I grew I realized that I had been serving me.  I had been striving for superficial goals and was leading myself into an abandoned desolate desert.
I believe that our children, our teenage children of God need to know that there will be struggles and we might go astray but that no matter what, God will steer us back to him if we trust his plan~
Proverbs 31:10-30New International Version (NIV)
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 [a]A wife of noble character who can find?

    She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her

    and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,

    all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax

    and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,

    bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still night;

    she provides food for her family

    and portions for her female servants.

16 She considers a field and buys it;

    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;

    her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,

    and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff

    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor

    and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;

    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;

    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,

    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,

    and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;

    she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,

    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household

    and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;

    her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women do noble things,

    but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;

    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

So Proverbs 31 talks about faith and how wisdom comes from trusting God and leaning on his understands. He tells us that we are to work hard, find strength from God and in doing so can bring those we hold dear closer to God.  We can be confident in our endeavor as we walk this life to be a blessing to others and use our gifts to bring help to those in need.  We are called to be a good wife and mother, to be noble and to fear the Lord.  I find that looking forward on my path, I see wide with wisdom, courage and a women who has since found her way.  It is so gratifying at the age of 42 to see your life before you....look in any direction and know that you feel well.  I am whole with Christ and I know that no matter what sin I may display or whom I might not sit well with; I am well with the Lord.  God calls each of us wives and mothers to take on this life with zealous drive, eager to finish the task at hand, ready to see this day from dawn to dusk fulfilling our desire to please.  We can then delight in the days and be confident that we are clothed, fed and loved. 
Looking back at Proverbs for my teen daughters: This is my advice.  Remember to smell the roses and stop to see how much good you can do. There are people around you who are influencing your decisions, your work and your future.  Who are you looking to for guidance and strength?  I would ask that you find a trusted friend, an adult you look up to or a family member who shows you courage and strength at their worst.  Then I would say to remember that no matter what life gives you, He is watching and guiding you.  For a Proverbs mom, we are human making mistakes as we walk this life beside you and trying to show you the light.  We are gentle, kind, loving and most of all: an influence that can enlighten your day.  💗 building-life-long-perspective-wisdom~LoveGodGreatly

Wonderful Counselor : Jesus Christ

From(John 6:60-67 )
The Words of Eternal Life
60 When many of his disciples heard it, they said, “This is a hard saying; who can listen to it?” 61 But Jesus, knowing in himself that his disciples were grumbling about this, said to them, “Do you take offense at this? 62 Then what if you were to see the Son of Man ascending to where he was before? 63 It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh is no help at all. The words that I have spoken to you are spirit and life. 64 But there are some of you who do not believe.” (For Jesus knew from the beginning who those were who did not believe, and who it was who would betray him.) 65 And he said, “This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless it is granted him by the Father.” 66 After this many of his disciples turned back and no longer walked with him. 67 So Jesus said to the Twelve, “Do you want to go away as well?”

'Tis the Season to be Grateful and Forgive

As we approach the new holiday season on Thanksgiving, let us take a moment to reflect on the true meaning of that 1st thanksgiving meal. It was to put aside the past differences and traditions, starting a new one in a vast new World.

I can't help but also take a look at my own life thus far and try to make sense of it (the season of life I am currently in).  I love that I have been able to stay home with my girls and see them grow into mature ladies.  I am thankful for my husband who devotes countless nights to working for our benefit.  I am grateful we live in a country that allows me to worship our God and freely give those foundations to my children.  I am forever in debt to our Lord for giving me that same grace & freedom to be a daughter of his.  I am offered a chance to in turn bring that peace to others. 

When you get down to it, I am a sinner born from our Heavenly father to be saved by his only Son and in the end a "new creation" adopted into his family in heaven. I can see the sin that has weaved into my life and the steps I have strayed from him as I grew in faith and stature.  I love that no matter where I was in life or faith that he is by my side waiting to guide me back to him.  I cherish my life; time spent learning his Word, knitting my heart with his wisdom, unconditional love and abounding grace. 

As you sit down and reflect on your year with family near by and tummy full, reflect too on your relationship with our heavenly Father. To forgive yourself first then others. To be grateful for all you have is to have hope and faith in our Lord. 

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"Women Living Well: Finding Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids, and Your Home"

Reading this book allows us insight to the reader and also to our lives as moms.  We all struggle from time to time with worry about our kids, our jobs as moms, our responsibility to our homes and our duty as Godly wives to our husbands.  This book was such a joyous blessing for me. 

There is a few quotes that really spoke to me: “We could have exactly what the neighbors have, if we would simply water our yard and tend to it!”   I always think that the other women I know have it all together. We can begin to think other families don't understand or perhaps can't relate to our issues. This is when we need to fix our eyes on our heavenly father and remain in his word.  If we begin to look inward, to our lives and our hearts, we can begin to heal and renew our families, homes, relationship with kids and spouse. 

“Give yourself permission not to have your to-do list all checked off in order for you to rest and get alone with God.”  I tend to be one of those moms that takes time to be with God alone when kids are in bed and house is quiet.  I want to be refreshed in his holy spirit and be renewed so that I can begin my day with them in a good way.  I can get the spiritual nourishment to help make me a better mom, wife and women.  I sense his quiet whispering voice, as it gives me strength and wisdom, to deal with whatever my day might hold.  He gives me his words to guide my girls on living like Jesus and his peace to keep myself calm no matter what comes our way.  When I stray from his word and that time to deepen my relationship with God, I have a poor day and tend to be easily swayed towards the dark side.  I am more grumpy, more quick to judge others and more easily frustrated with my kids.  Does that mean that even in those day that I spend time with God, things can't go wrong?  No, I just mean that I am better equipped to handle whatever each day brings.

“My children will only be as disciplined with their emotions as I am with mine.”   This is one of those things I find myself thinking of after the fact.  I tend to get overstressed and then just blow.  I expect my children to be behaved and then do not restrain myself when I am tired after a long day.  We are the first to explain how they should behave: non-judgmental, loving towards others and being willing to forgive others; but then we have a weak moment and judge others, show hatred towards strangers and hold grudges towards those we claim to be friends with.  This new age of modern technology doesn't help this basic instinct that we, women, have.  You can look back in the bible and see how women in history have done such things and then expect their offspring to be Godly people.  We need to be that example that our children see and want to follow.  We want to be able to help our children along the way and be the guide they come to for advice when they are faced with a difficult choice.    

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Prodigal Son....the story of a life of wants that became a life of purpose and belonging



Luke 15:17-24*

“That brought him to his senses. He said, ‘All those farmhands working for my father sit down to three meals a day, and here I am starving to death. I’m going back to my father. I’ll say to him, Father, I’ve sinned against God, I’ve sinned before you; I don’t deserve to be called your son. Take me on as a hired hand.’

His heart pounding, he ran out, embraced him, and kissed him. The son started his speech: ‘Father, I’ve sinned against God, I’ve sinned before you; I don’t deserve to be called your son ever again.’

We’re going to feast! We’re going to have a wonderful time! My son is here—given up for dead and now alive! Given up for lost and now found!’ 

What does this verse say to you?  Does it make you want to comfortthe son or be angry that he left you and expects to be forgiven?  Do you feel like the oldest brother who stayed with his father and did as he was told, working the farm and never asking to leave or spend his fatehers' money?

  • Luke 15:29-32* (reflects on the other brother's point of view)

‘Look, these many years I have served you, and I never disobeyed your command, yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might celebrate with my friends. 30But when this son of yours came, who has devoured your property with prostitutes, you killed the fattened calf for him!’ 31And he said to him, ‘Son, you are always with me, and all that is mine is yours. 32It was fitting to celebrate and be glad, for this your brother was dead, and is alive; he was lost, and is found.’”

I, too, would be the one like Martha to want to make the house perfect for Jesus and also the oldest Brother who would wonder why his father was so forgivening and graceful towards his brother.  We tend to judge others and fault them for their mistakes, yet what about the "plank in our own eyes?"

We are not perfect and God knows that as sinners we are prone to continue to repeat our mistakes and yet God forgives us.  Take up your crosses and allow God to work in your life.  You have purpose and meaning, God knows the plans he has for you. And if you stumble and fall, he is there to pick you up and forgive you, giving you rest, and freedom: a new life in Him!

As a Martha, not a Mary, I reflect on my past mistakes, strutinize my past and try to prepare my heart and house to be perfect for his return.  But in all honesty, I am jeleous of my sister Mary and her free spirit and wellness.  My sin eats away at my soul and my spirit is uneasy.  I beg for forgiven, yet give it not to myself.  I ask for others to not judge me, and yet I judge others as the Pharisees did.  I wait for the day the Jesus returns and gives me his had as he welcomes me into the gates of Heaven and shows that loving smile of mercy and grace!

We must embrace our Heavenly Father and remind him of our love and devotion.  We must opens arms to the one who saved us from our sins and show him the mercy and grace he has shown us. Prepare the way for Jesus and let others know they are forgiven!  We are children of Christ, first forgiven by God and know as sinners who were freed by Jesus. 

God bless, Kim Swiczkowski

Good Morning Girls bible study: Living Like Jesus

References used:
1. *{Peterson, Eugene H. (2006-06-15). The Message Remix 2.0: The Bible In contemporary Language (p. 1867). NAVPress - A. Kindle Edition.}

2. *Crossway Bibles (2011-02-09). The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (with Cross-References) (Kindle Locations 34799-34801). Good News Publishers/Crossway Books. Kindle Edition.